# Mathematical model explains marital breakups

##### May 17, 2010 by Lin Edwards

(PhysOrg.com) -- Most people know love takes work, and effort is needed to sustain a happy relationship over the long term, but now a mathematician in Spain has for the first time explained it mathematically by developing a dynamical mathematical model based on the second law of thermodynamics to model "sentimental dynamics." The results are consistent with sociological data on marriage breakdowns.

Most couples marry only after careful consideration and most are determined to make their marriage last, and a happy is widely considered in Western societies to be important for overall . Yet soaring rates and break ups of de facto relationships across Europe and the U.S. show these plans and ideals are failing. Many scholars attribute the increasing rates of breakdown to economic forces and changes in sexual divisions of labor, but this does not fully explain the continuing rise in those rates.

The research was carried out by José-Manuel Rey of the Department of Economic Analysis, at the Universidad Complutense in Madrid, and aimed to provide a to explain rising rates of marital breakdown. Using the optimal control theory model, Rey developed an equation based on the “second thermodynamic law for sentimental interaction,” which states a relationship will disintegrate unless “energy” (effort) is fed into it.

The results of the mathematical analysis showed when both members of union are similar emotionally they have an “optimal effort policy,” which results in a happy, long-lasting relationship. The policy can break down if there is a tendency to reduce the effort because maintaining it causes discomfort, or because a lower degree of effort results in instability. Paradoxically, according to the second law model, a union everyone hopes will last forever is likely break up, a feature Rey calls the “failure paradox”.

According to the model, successful long-term relationships are those with the most tolerable gap between the amount of effort that would be regarded by the couple as optimal and the effort actually required to keep the relationship happy. The mathematical model also implies that when no effort is put in the relationship can easily deteriorate.

The mathematical model may help explain why couples split in real-life scenarios, and adds to our understanding of how and why relationships go wrong. Having a better understanding of this can help us to work out how to make the relationship improve, which is helpful because broken relationships pose major sociological, economic, and other problems in our society. The study is also a reminder it is better to work on the relationship when the going is good, instead of relaxing and then finding the increased work necessary to fix a disintegrating is more than considered reasonable.

The paper is published and available online at PLoS ONE and is dedicated to “the unique long-standing sentimental equilibrium of Pepe Rey and Ana Simó”.

More information: Rey J-M (2010) A Mathematical Model of Sentimental Dynamics Accounting for Marital Dissolution. PLoS ONE 5(3): e9881. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0009881

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##### stonehat
3 / 5 (2) May 17, 2010
"Yet soaring divorce rates and break ups of de facto relationships across Europe and the U.S."

No, wrong - the divorce rates in the US and the UK ( the ones I checked ) are declining and have been for years:

http://www.divorc...tes.html

http://news.bbc.c...5132.stm

Great journalism guys.
##### thematrix606
3.3 / 5 (4) May 17, 2010

Great journalism guys.

"divorce rates and break ups"

Learn to read, break ups don't lead to divorces. And I bet that people are getting married less and less now a days, what are the rates of that?

Think before you speak.
##### jscroft
3.9 / 5 (7) May 17, 2010
You two are experiencing a bit of an effort gap, I see.
##### Puma
3 / 5 (2) May 17, 2010
In Qualitative terms, the same argument gets made here:

http://weddedabys...ess.com/

In Summary - The only way to win is to not play the (rigged) game.
##### Puma
4.7 / 5 (3) May 17, 2010
"Yet soaring divorce rates and break ups of de facto relationships across Europe and the U.S."

No, wrong - the divorce rates in the US and the UK ( the ones I checked ) are declining and have been for years:

http://www.divorc...tes.html

Great journalism guys.

Actually, the divorce-rates are only decreasing because (new) marriage-rates have been decreasing even faster.

Check out the BBC news story on UK Marriage rates, now only 40% of what they were in the 60's:

http://news.bbc.c...4435.stm

Here is a similar analysis of the US marriage-rate crash:

http://www.the-sp...riage-2/

Less marriages, mean less divorces. Marriage is still a rotten idea. (just ask Sir Paul).
##### MontgomeryScott
not rated yet May 17, 2010
Holy Hari Seldon! 2nd law of thermo, cute, no wonder they call it a heated argument! I love this site!!!
##### paulthebassguy
not rated yet May 17, 2010
Haha, I wonder how this mathematician's marriage is coming along.
##### jselin
not rated yet May 24, 2010
Haha, I wonder how this mathematician's marriage is coming along.

One can only assume he's thoroughly explored the proposed solution space...