Women use gossip to compete for a man's attention

October 4, 2017
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Although both men and women gossip, women may be more likely to use gossiping and rumour-mongering as tactics to badmouth a potential rival who is competing for a man's attention. Women also gossip more about other women's looks, whereas men talk about cues to resource holding (e.g., wealth) and the athleticism of their competitors. According to Adam Davis of the University of Ottawa in Canada, gossiping is a highly evolved social skill and an intrasexual competition tactic that relates to women's and men's evolved preferences. He therefore sees it as essential for interpersonal relationships, and not a flaw of character.

Davis is the lead author of a study in Springer's journal Evolutionary Psychological Science that provides the first verifiable evidence for a positive link between intrasexual competitiveness, the amount of that people take part in, and whether they are OK with such talk or not. Scholars agree that gossip has evolved as an efficient way to learn more about others, and to enforce group norms. It is also a method by which people can learn more about their rivals, and can call into question their reputation, especially when they are vying for the same romantically or sexually desirable mates.

In this study, 290 heterosexual Canadian students between the ages of 17 and 30 years old completed three questionnaires. One measured how competitive the participants are towards members of the same sex as their own, especially in terms of access to the attention of potential mates. The other questionnaires measured the tendency and likelihood of the participants to gossip about others, the perceived social value of gossip, and whether it is okay to talk about others behind their backs.

It was found that people who were competitive towards members of their own sex had a greater tendency to gossip. They were also more comfortable with the practice than others. Women had a greater tendency to gossip than men, and they also enjoyed it more, and saw more value in participating in such chit-chat. Men were more likely to gossip about the achievements of others. Such talk among often targeted the physical appearance of another, and was used to share social information. Women also found gossip to have greater social value, which may allow them gather more information about possible competitors in the game of finding a mate. It may also help to hone their ability to gossip in future.

According to Davis, these findings provide evidence that gossip is an intrasexual competition tactic that corresponds to women's and men's evolved mate preferences. It also reflects the different strategies used by the sexes in their quest to find suitable mates.

"The findings demonstrate that gossip is intimately linked to mate competition and not solely the product of a female gender stereotype that may be viewed as pejorative," states Davis, who believes that therapists, counsellors, educators, and the general public should rethink their stance about gossip. "It is a highly evolved essential for , rather than a flaw of character."

Explore further: The positive side of water-cooler gossip

More information: Adam C. Davis et al, Gossip as an Intrasexual Competition Strategy: Sex Differences in Gossip Frequency, Content, and Attitudes, Evolutionary Psychological Science (2017). DOI: 10.1007/s40806-017-0121-9

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RobertKarlStonjek
not rated yet Oct 04, 2017
My impression is that American men are more likely to gossip about a person's income. Friends who have travelled to the USA report to me that many people were interested in how much they earned. In the UK, people are more likely to gossip about things that define a person's social class and standing. In Australia it seems to be more about a person's experiences and achievements, what they have actually done and are doing.

I assume that even these observations only apply, assuming there is any truth in them at all, to certain classes and ages, such as middle class, working age (not college students).

As the article says, they polled college students 17~30. As they are not even earning an income at that age they are still in that period when the status and income of their parents is a large measure of their own status (that is, they are yet to mature socially and achieve independence).
someone11235813
not rated yet Oct 05, 2017
Better off using the twins.
TransmissionDump
not rated yet Oct 05, 2017
I told all my friends about this article
JohnDonohue
1 / 5 (1) Oct 07, 2017

"gossiping is a highly evolved social skill and an intrasexual competition tactic that relates to women's and men's evolved preferences. He therefore sees it as essential for interpersonal relationships, and not a flaw of character."

Nice. Since it "evolved" and we therefore don't 'choose' to gossip but rather wallow in it driven by natural selection, it's cool. We are only cogs in a fated blob of fauna. Free will? A ridiculous illusion. Personal moral code? For fools. Standing on one's own character and engaging all others face to face? Weak.

For irony, I'm tempted to whip out a list of quotes from the Bible making gossip a sin. However, I am atheist. So I'll just supply one.

Gossip is a sign of your pathological co-dependence. The nexus of your identity is outside of your self. Your passive-aggressive behavior kills any chance of finding true authenticity with another.
krizdaps
not rated yet Oct 14, 2017
Is this site becoming a joke?

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