Young people say sex, paychecks come in second to self-esteem

Jan 06, 2011 by Jeff Grabmeier

Young people may crave boosts to their self-esteem a little too much, new research suggests.

Researchers found that valued boosts to their self-esteem more than any other pleasant activity they were asked about, including sex, favorite foods, , seeing a best friend or receiving a paycheck.

"It is somewhat surprising how this desire to feel worthy and valuable trumps almost any other pleasant activity you can imagine," said Brad Bushman, lead author of the research and professor of communication and psychology at The Ohio State University.

Bushman conducted the research with Scott Moeller of Brookhaven National Laboratory and Jennifer Crocker, professor of psychology at Ohio State. The study appears online in the and will be published in a future print edition.

In two separate studies, the researchers asked college students how much they wanted and liked various pleasant activities, such as their favorite food or seeing a best friend. They were asked to rate how much they wanted and liked each activity on a scale of 1 (not at all) to 5 (extremely).

One of the items they were asked about was self-esteem building experiences, such as receiving a good grade or receiving a compliment.

"We found that self-esteem trumped all other rewards in the minds of these college students," Bushman said.

Those students who indicated they highly valued self-esteem also showed it in the laboratory.

In one study, the participants took a test which purportedly measured their intellectual ability. Afterwards, the students were told if they waited another ten minutes, they could have their test re-scored using a new scoring that usually yields higher test results.

Students who highly valued self-esteem were more likely to stay to get the new scores.

"They were willing to spend their own precious time just to get a small boost in their self-esteem," Bushman said.

Bushman said there is nothing wrong with a healthy sense of self-esteem. But the results of this study suggest many may be a little too focused on pumping up their self-esteem.

Here's why: for all the pleasant activities examined in this study, participants were asked to rate both how much they liked the activity and how much they wanted it. Both questions were asked because addiction research suggests that addicts tend to report they "want" the object of their addiction (drugs, alcohol, gambling) more than they actually "like" it, Bushman said.

"The liking-wanting distinction has occupied an important place in addiction research for nearly two decades," Moeller said. "But we believe it has great potential to inform other areas of psychology as well."

In this study, participants liked all the pleasant activities more than they wanted them, which is healthy, Bushman said. But the difference between liking and wanting was smallest when it came to self-esteem.

"It wouldn't be correct to say that the study participants were addicted to self-esteem," Bushman said. "But they were closer to being addicted to self-esteem than they were to being addicted to any other activity we studied."

Findings showed that people with a strong sense of entitlement were the ones who were most likely to "want" the good things in life – including boosts to their self-esteem – even more than they actually "like" them.

Entitlement was measured as part of a narcissism scale which participants completed. In the scale, participants had to choose which of two statements they most agreed with. For example, people who scored high on entitlement were more likely to agree with "If I ruled the world, it would be a much better place" rather than "The thought of ruling the world frightens the hell out of me."

"Entitled people want all the good things in life, even if they don't particularly like them," Bushman said. "Of course, there's no problem with enjoying good things, but it is not healthy to want them more than you like them."

Bushman said he sees danger in this obsession with self-esteem. Research has shown that levels of self-esteem have been increasing, at least among college students in the United States, since the mid-1960s.

"American society seems to believe that self-esteem is the cure all for every social ill, from bad grades to teen pregnancies to violence," he said. "But there has been no evidence that boosting self-esteem actually helps with these problems. We may be too focused on increasing self-esteem."

Study co-author Crocker added, "The problem isn't with having high self-esteem; it's how much people are driven to boost their self-esteem. When people highly value self-esteem, they may avoid doing things such as acknowledging a wrong they did. Admitting you were wrong may be uncomfortable for self-esteem at the moment, but ultimately it could lead to better learning, relationships, growth, and even future self-esteem."

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Quantum_Conundrum
5 / 5 (1) Jan 06, 2011
Yes, shocking as it may be to Hollywood and marketing firms, some people actually do care about things other than sex and money.
trekgeek1
3.7 / 5 (3) Jan 06, 2011
So what if someone offers you money for sex and during the act gives you a very nice compliment that boosts your self esteem? There's a real trinity for ya.
ryggesogn2
3 / 5 (2) Jan 06, 2011
"The problem isn't with having high self-esteem; it's how much people are driven to boost their self-esteem. "
The problem is HOW that self-esteem is earned.
'Earning' a diploma for completing school without learning anything does little for real self-worth.
Skeptic_Heretic
not rated yet Jan 06, 2011
'Earning' a diploma for completing school without learning anything does little for real self-worth.
Speaking from experience?

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